Archive for the 'Self-control' Category


There’s a great cartoon floating around Facebook at the moment, with a man wearing a plastic Queen Anne collar (the kind a dog wears after surgery), designed to keep him from incessantly checking his phone. The past twenty years has seen a mad-paced technological invasion into our already full-packed and full-paced lives. Our generation of [...]

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Okay, so this is what you have to do: Stop complaining to yourself about yourself, stop telling yourself the same story over and over about how you could have/should have done something different/better, and stop ruminating about what could have been and should have been. Just stop! Stories can empower or disempower us. They can [...]

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So, how are your New Year Resolutions going? On schedule? Peaky? Marvellous? Or have they fallen by the wayside? Or a bit of both? I don’t do New Year Resolutions. I do, however, reflect on the year that was and the year that is about to become. I have intentions and goals for the year, [...]

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The Long and Winding Road

For as long as I can remember I wanted to be a children’s author, so when an opportunity came up to write a 5,000 word children’s story for the final semester of my undergraduate year at university, way back in 1999, I jumped at the opportunity. There was a catch, though: the deadline for submissions [...]

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Sorry (does not have to be) the hardest word.

The character strength of self-control can be put into action in many ways.  From tempering behaviour, such as counting to ten  or taking slow, deliberate breaths when confronted with a flight/fight response, to deferring desires , like when trying to break a habit by making healthy choices.  Self-control appears in all shapes, sizes and circumstances. [...]

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